This weekend on the Saddleback Church bulletin, Pastor Phillip
Congelliere, campus pastor at Saddleback Aliso Viejo, and his wife Alex, share how
their painful struggle with infertility ultimately led them to explore
adoption. As God opened their hearts to the possibility of being parents to a
child in need of a family, they were presented with a unique and miraculous
opportunity to adopt their precious daughter.
At Saddleback, we know that the struggle with infertility is
a challenge faced by so many couples. We also know that the process of starting
to think about growing your family through adoption or foster care can be
overwhelming and confusing. The good news is – the Orphan Care Initiative is
here to support you! You’re not alone – you can hear from people just like you
who have already walked this path.
If you are struggling with infertility, or if you would like
more information on how you can adopt or foster, we invite you to join us next
Wednesday from 6:30-8:30pm in the MO2 Gathering Room of the Saddleback Lake
Forest campus for our monthly “
About Adoption or Foster Care
” gathering. There you will hear helpful
overviews from adoptive and foster parents in our own church and have the
opportunity to get your questions answered in a no-pressure environment.
If you can’t make it to the gathering, we would still love
to talk with you! You can call the orphan care line at 949-609-8555 or email
email@example.com to get
connected and learn more.
Perhaps, like me,
you’ve been tempted to worry for your children that adoption will affect them,
especially in the long run. When I am tempted to fear this is my prayer:
If something in them is ruined, may it be
apathy. If they are disrupted, may it be for the plight of the orphan and the
widow, the sick and the lonely, the refugee and the homeless. If this does, in
fact, create baggage down the road, may they experience the peace that comes in
unloading their burdens on the only One who can fully bear the weight. If they
are uncomfortable, may they embrace the presence of the Spirit, our Comforter.
If they are ever questioned or teased for the differences in their family, may
the Spirit strengthen them in every way, and may the experience increase their
compassion and empathy. In this Land of Opportunity, may they take every
opportunity to show the mercy that they have been shown. I’m not advocating for
a life riddled with uncertainty and inconsistency for our children. They need
safe rhythms and security, and one of our primary roles is to protect them. But
as we do, may we protect them from a life anesthetized by comforts that blind
them to the needs of others. We are called to love and to live sacrificially.
May we help them see there is a story bigger than their own. As we teach our
children that Christ has done the monumental work of saving the world, may we
never forget to show them how He invites us to join in the incremental work of
loving our neighbor, even when it means disruption. Obedience leads ultimately
to joy and freedom. He turns disruption into a gift.
Originally posted as The Gift of Disruption by Katy Rose Oct 20, 2015 on
Kristen Welch’s blog wearethatfamily.com
If you would like information on how to begin your adoption or foster care journey, email us at firstname.lastname@example.org or call the Orphan Care Initiative at 949-609-8555.
Fall has arrived, kids are back in school, and it's a great time to get connected, learn, and gain the tools to help your family and other families! Whether you are new to orphan care, or have been around a long time - there is a spot for you to grow and learn! Gain some new insight to help your kiddos, or to serve vulnerable children locally and globally.
We hope to see you at one of these great opportunities:
Care Skills Training – Oct. 24 from 9am-1pm in the upstairs Refinery classroom
Learn how to end the
orphan care crisis by helping children remain in families, reunite with
families or regain a family through adoption can only be done through healthy
churches helping launch healthy families. You’ll learn an overview of the
practical advanced skills that you can use in your own family and give away to
a church. Learn the skills churches need in parenting children from hard places
using Trust Based Relational Interventions, Adult Attachment and Trauma
Care Support Group – Meets Tuesdays 11am-1pm, starts Oct. 27
Join other parents as
we listen, learn, and grow together. This season's Adoptive and Foster Family
Support Group meets on Tuesdays from 11am to 1pm in the upstairs Refinery
classroom on the Lake Forest Saddleback Church campus, starting October 27. The
support group will be studying from the DVD curriculum The Connection: Where Hearts Meet written by Dr. Karyn Purvis and
Elizabeth Styffe. Unfortunately, no childcare is available.
email@example.com or call the orphan care line at 949-609-8555!
“If one family out of every four churches in the U.S. would
adopt a child, there would be no more orphans in the United States.”
Elizabeth Styffe, Director of the Orphan Care Initiative at
Saddleback Church, recently spoke with Ruth Bell Olsson, from Bethany Christian Services during their "Every Child" podcast, about the orphan crisis facing our world today and how the global
Church can be equipped to end this crisis by learning about God’s heart for the
“Not every believer needs to adopt, but every believer needs
to say, ‘What can I do to end the orphan crisis?’” Elizabeth says that the
Church is the only entity that cares for people from cradle to grave and that
God has called each of us to care for the orphan: “Every night, including
tonight, children are going to bed praying what my children say they prayed.
Every night they prayed for a mom and dad…It’s not overly dramatic, it’s not
overly emotional, this is real as it gets. This is reality.”
The local church can end the orphan crisis by helping
children remain in family, reunite with family, or regain a family of their own
through adoption. Elizabeth notes, “This is about doing for a child physically
what God has done for us spiritually.”
Listen to the full podcast here.
If you are interested in becoming involved with the Orphan Care Initiative, email firstname.lastname@example.org or call 949-609-8555.
Adapted from a
blog that originally appeared on www.EmpoweredtoConnect.org
are no perfect parents, only growing parents. When parents make mistakes it can
actually be healthy for both them and their children, so long as parents are
quick to repair the ruptured connection. This is certainly good news, given
that all parents are prone to their fair share of mistakes.
here’s a challenge for all parents — let’s practice making mistakes with our
children (not intentionally, of course) and repairing them so that we and our
children can grow and learn, and our connection can be strengthened. Here’s how
a two to three day period when you will be with your child for most, if not
all, of the waking hours in the day. Over the course of these days, be mindful
to repair each and every mistake you make when interacting with your child.
Whether you lose your temper, raise your voice, speak sarcastically, become
frustrated, cut them off, fail to give them voice, ignore them, hurt their
feelings…the list could go on. Regardless of whether the mistake is big or
small, intentional or unintentional, be sure to quickly, humbly, and sincerely
repair each and every mistake you make.
you do this, make a mental note of (or actually write down) any observations
that stand out, particularly in terms of your own feelings and your child’s
response (to both your mistake and your repair). Also make a note of any
changes in your relationship with your child that you witness throughout the
course of this time. We have a hunch that by practicing making mistakes and
repairing them, your relationship with your child will grow.
more on the importance of parents repairing their mistakes, watch
this video featuring Dr. Karyn Purvis.