Adapted from a
blog that originally appeared on www.EmpoweredtoConnect.org
are no perfect parents, only growing parents. When parents make mistakes it can
actually be healthy for both them and their children, so long as parents are
quick to repair the ruptured connection. This is certainly good news, given
that all parents are prone to their fair share of mistakes.
here’s a challenge for all parents — let’s practice making mistakes with our
children (not intentionally, of course) and repairing them so that we and our
children can grow and learn, and our connection can be strengthened. Here’s how
a two to three day period when you will be with your child for most, if not
all, of the waking hours in the day. Over the course of these days, be mindful
to repair each and every mistake you make when interacting with your child.
Whether you lose your temper, raise your voice, speak sarcastically, become
frustrated, cut them off, fail to give them voice, ignore them, hurt their
feelings…the list could go on. Regardless of whether the mistake is big or
small, intentional or unintentional, be sure to quickly, humbly, and sincerely
repair each and every mistake you make.
you do this, make a mental note of (or actually write down) any observations
that stand out, particularly in terms of your own feelings and your child’s
response (to both your mistake and your repair). Also make a note of any
changes in your relationship with your child that you witness throughout the
course of this time. We have a hunch that by practicing making mistakes and
repairing them, your relationship with your child will grow.
more on the importance of parents repairing their mistakes, watch
this video featuring Dr. Karyn Purvis.